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5/8/2014 4:30 PM
I completely agree. I think I have shared more with you ladies than with most people that surround me. I wish we were in a "real" support group and knew each other personally. I think we would all become pretty good friends.
It doesn't seem like we are even in the same state. Lol....have a wonderful weekend ladies.

5/8/2014 4:23 PM
KanaJoy: I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through, but please keep the faith. Hearing the heartbeat is a positive thing. I will most definitely keep you in my prayers, but ask that you not worry as that is not good for you or the babies. Please keep us posted as to what is happening.

Ladies this is why this forum is here so we can all gather together and pray for all the ladies and husbands that go through this long, stressful, emotional process. I appreciate you all and thank you for being open and honest on here and providing such great encouraging words.

5/8/2014 4:02 PM
Oh ladies, my heart goes out to all of you as you are all going through a struggle of some sort. I will keep you all in my prayers. We have to try to be strong and remain as positive as possible. We have all been on such a long and tumultuous journey that we can't lose hope now. XOXOX to each one of you.

5/8/2014 3:56 PM
KanaJoy, will definately keep you in prayers. And I agree with you, there is a heartbeat...stay positive. Did they tell you what caused the blood clot?

5/8/2014 3:52 PM
Hey ladies, just and update on my FET is scheduled for May 15th. Kindly remember me/us in prayers. We should give final word by Tuesday on how many to transfer. Still torn.

5/8/2014 3:50 PM
Hi Ladies,

So I've been a little quiet. Things are rocky over here. Had my 2nd ultrasound yesterday (also our wedding anniversary) and things are not progressing as they'd hope. Baby A did have a heartbeat, but was a little small for gestation, and Baby B wasn't doing anything. They said they were cautiously optimistic. I should also say they've also been watching a hematoma (blood clot/bruise) in my uterus as well.

I went in today to see the doctor and she decided to do another ultrasound to check. Baby A still has a heartbeat, but it was a little slower, 97. She said we're kind of walking a tight rope, but we're not giving up because baby still has a heartbeat. We will check again next week. My acupuncturist is doing treatments twice a week now and has given us another treatment for hubby to do every night to try and nourish and maintain the pregnancy. All prayers are welcome and appreciated as we are a bit saddened and scared. No cramping and no bleeding so far...

Pepsgirl ~ So happy for you!!!

5/8/2014 10:30 AM
@cann13, I think that if the cycle fails and telling everybody about it and going through all the sadness and puppy eyes is the one thing I am not looking forward to, that is really the only regret I have with people knowing, I want to be able to deal with the pain and get back up on that wagon alone (with my husband of course) but then again maybe the extra support will be good! only time will tell. The doctors said we would be doing two fresh eggs at first with a chance of twins! I think we would be very happy with two babies but I would be just as happy with one as long as he/she is healthy .

@wanttobeamommy, I am so sorry to hear you are going through so much, we never know how strong we are till we are faced with obsticals, it is hard to deal with family stress on top of the baby stress. Being upset with the situation is a normal reaction and nothing you should feel bad about, I know its not easy but try to sit back and take care of yourself, I used to take on a lot of stuff with family, friends and home but I had to have a talk with myself going through all this and make sure I took each step, appointment, issue one at a time, one day at a time and know I couldnt control what was to come but only what was infront of me at that moment. Make a date night with your husband at home even over dinner, movie and just try to enjoy each other, making time for one another is probably the hardest thing you can do or it was for me with having so much other stuff going on. Communication is hard for both men and woman we think differently and if talking it out doesnt work in person try paper or text, i know sounds silly but for awhile my husband and I just couldnt talk face to face, we would text each other and get what we wanted to say out which gave us time to really think about what the other was saying or how they were feeling, I feel that helped us a lot.

@pepsigirl07, Congrats on the possible TWINS! thats exciting, I can see where it would be a shock but its a blessing

5/8/2014 8:10 AM
@Cann13 I am doing well....gald to hear you are fairng well and super happy for give me so much hope and glad that you are still here with us...How is the pregancy Journal coming along?

5/8/2014 8:08 AM
@pepsgirl07 congratulations on your double joy!!! Super happy for you all ladies with the rest of us hope!
@Wannabemommy I so sorry to hear what you nd your DH are going through. I know financially and emotionally this is draining you guys and not to mention the whole process to be a mommy is also draining you financially....So sorry dear, it can be frustrating to deal with such situations that seem so unfair. Take heart dear and do not allow your frustrations to linger is okay to be frustrated...just do not allow yourself to be upset/frustrated too long. When it rains, sometimes it pours...right? Keep holding on, you have come from far. Keep holding on. Nothing lasts forever, this too shall pass. Holding your hand in this and thinking about you. Hugs...Xoxo

5/7/2014 8:05 PM
Pepsgirl07 yay!!!!!! Congrats!!!!! Thats great news. Yes a little overwhelming but a blessing. I am so happy for you. We were prepared for twins just in case but got our one little jelly bean and that is ok with us. We would take anything. I'm sure your family and friends would love to help out. Wish you all the best! Xoxo
wannabeamommy you can not stress. I know I would be upset myself but right now its not worth it. Come together with your husband dont fight over it. Put your heads together and do what you have to. Best of luck.

5/7/2014 6:18 PM
Thank you

....congratulations on the twins! What a blessing!

5/7/2014 6:02 PM
Cann13: I am really glad you are doing so well!! I am not having any symptoms yet, except for being really hot during the night and some insomnia every once in a while. We went to the RE yesterday for the first ultrasound to see the sac and we found two sacs so right now we are having Twins!!! I was very shocked and overwhelmed, but very happy.

I will keep you posted.

Wanttobeamommy: I am sorry to hear all the stress you are experiencing. Please try to not take on too much of that stress as it is not good for you. I know easier said then done. I will pray for your situation and ask God to take care of your financies and allow some peace of mind for you and your husband.

5/7/2014 4:09 PM
Hi cann13, it's good to hear from you and that all is going great. I'm really excited for you and hope everything continues as it has been. I bet you can't stop rubbing that belly. I was doing that all the time during the 2ww, thinking I was pregnant. I feel so silly saying so but I had so many "pregnancy" symptoms. Anyhow, I can't wait to experience the real nausea and swelling. Lol. Enjoy every minute of it as time sure does fly!
I'm doing ok, I guess. Lol. We're going through a lot of financial problems right now causing a great deal of stress. I apologize in advance but I need to husband's job got hit with an order that my husband needs to provide medical insurance for his son. It makes no sense because he already has it. Per court order, that we didn't really know about, the kid needs duplicate coverage. He is healthy and dual coverage makes absolutely no sense. I think it is ridiculous since we only have him 1 time per week for about 8-10 hours only. Now if it were 50/50 custody, it might make a little more sense. Anyhow, my husband's employer has to do what the order said and insured the kid at $462/month for medical insurance. We only had under a week to figure this out and look for private coverage. We found one but it won't take effect until June and he needs coverage in May, so we are paying $462 plus the $800/month child support. To make matters worse, the child support case worker told my husband that his son's mother wants to take him back to court for more child support (as if $800/month is not enough)! I'm so stressed and angry right now! My husband gets upset with me because I get upset at this situation. Am I wrong for doing so? I think anybody would be upset at the situation. Anyhow....that is my dilemma right now and I haven't even begun to think of our next cycle. Although, I need to have my surgery before hand, just 13 more days!
I'm so sorry ladies that I just rambled on but I had to let it out!

5/7/2014 3:39 PM
Welcome Faith1219 and thank you!
I have told our parents and just my close friends that knew we were going thru it. I agree I wish I could have turned back and not have said anything to anyone. All the questions from everyone and explaining over again whats going on and how the process worked was a little much for me at times. It especially hit me hard when our first cycle(we got pregnant on the 2nd cycle) did not work and my eggs did not fertilize(only had 2). I had to deal with telling everyone and reliving it every time and dealing with the sad puppy eyes. I just rather have dealt with that alone. But! Here we are a few months later and jumping off the walls of excitement. Its good to have a support system which you will definitely find here. I loved talking to everyone and everyone giving me advise and support. I especially loved reading BFP stories. It gave me hope.
I wish you all the best and if you have any questions do not hesitate to ask. I still come and check up on the girls.

2014MOM how are you?
wannabeamommy hi hope all is well.
pepsirl07 hows it going? Morning sickness yet?
kanajoy how is it going? Have you done the U/S yet?

5/7/2014 12:37 PM
Thank you for all the warm welcomes

Congrats and good luck to you @Cann13! we did the same thing for all our medications and it was so much cheaper than what the original price was, so great we were able to get help with that! I wish I could say we were able to go through this and surprise everybody once we had the OK! but both my husband and I met 10 years ago here at work and we both work with our moms, its not a family business but a big title company. So of course they are in the know of what is what along with some close coworkers (or maybe the entire office by now LOL nothing stays quite for too long ) cant really hide all the time away from work for appointments, it was overwhelming at first having questions tossed at you from every direction but finally having answers we were able to provide we now get lots of good lucks! it is nice to know we have people who care but at the same time wish we can turn back time and keep it to ourselves.

5/7/2014 11:25 AM
Hello ladies, @Faith1219 welcome to the forum. You will find lots of love and support here.
@Cann13 nice to hear you are going along well...9 Weeks already! Wow..going so fast.
Hope everyone is doing well..and carrying along with either consultation, injections or pregnancy.

5/7/2014 10:46 AM
Good Morning ladies! Hope all is going well for everyone.
I have been meaning to give you all a bit of information that helped me with my medicine but until now I had misplaced the information.
My nurse had given me a website to apply for medicine at a discounted rate for selected medicine's. you can get 25%-75% off of some meds if you qualify. It helped us a bit. It's still pricey just not as bad and the service was incredible! Overnight deliveries I never had a problem. The program is called First Step Program. If you google Design Rx Firststep, it will be the first one and you can apply right there. The phone number is 855-672-9260. I hope this helps some of you. I know any little bit helps.
As for me I am doing well aside from the nausea. The spotting stopped and I have a little belly. I am 9 weeks and 3 days today. Anxious for my 12 week screening visit so we can finally tell everyone the great news and make sure all is going well. It's funny how I worry about every little thing now. I haven't had a moment to finally breath and just let it go, especially after our scare. I think after the screening and everything will come back good that I will finally just enjoy it. I can finally start telling people and even buying a few things.
My last visit with my IVF Dr will be this Monday and I am so sad to not be going to him anymore. He has helped us so much he's like family now, but we did find an OB that he referred us to that we like. Thank God because looking for one was stressing me out I wanted to make sure I liked them and they were one of the best. Really dont have much to update right now. I think of all of you all the time. Good luck to all of you starting your cycles!
Have a great day ladies!

5/6/2014 6:51 PM
Welcome Faith1219 - I haven't ever done the blog/forum thing either, but so far this has been an awesome place to come for advise, suggestions, or just someone to talk to who understands what you are going through. Good luck to you throughout your cycle.

5/6/2014 6:42 PM
Thank you! it is very nice to be able to reach out to others who have already gone through or are going through the same thing.

5/6/2014 6:38 PM
Welcome to the forum Faith1219. I was like you when I started on this forum. I had never engaged in forums or blogs so was very nervous, but this group has truly been a blessing to me during my journey through IVF. I wish you the best of luck with your IVF cycle and please keep us posted

5/6/2014 4:46 PM
Hi! I have read pretty good things on doing IVF with ICSI on this site and it makes me feel good going into this process. I am just about to start my shots, this is my first IVF ICSI cycle, the doctors said this was our only option.

4/30/2014 2:52 PM
Thank you everyone for the well wishes!!! We could not be more excited. It has been a long time coming and God is truly blessing us

KanaJoy - Congratulations on the twins!!! Nothing could be more joyful then seeing those little embryos on the ultrasound. I will continue to keep you and your husband in my prayers. Please keep us up to date on your progress.

Cann13- Your news is so great!!! I am so excited to hear the first heartbeat. It has to be emotionally gratifying to know that your little baby is growing and the heartbeat is very strong. My prayers are with you and your husband as well.

Wannabemommy - I also had to the the hysteroscopy, because I had a polyp that grew in my uterine lining. The procedure itself is very simple. I only experienced minor cramping once I came too. I was then on hold to start the IVF for 4 weeks in order to let the uterus heal. Having this procedure according to my RE was the best way to ensure a comfortable living space for my embryos to implant. I will keep you in my prayers not only for this procedure but for the BFP to come once you start your IVF.

Ladies please keep us posted on your progress

4/30/2014 2:28 PM
wanttobeamommy ~ I will keep you in my prayers. I have another friend having surgery on the same day, so I will remember! Best of luck to you that all goes smoothly and things can move right along to the realization of your best dreams!!!! (((hugs)))

4/30/2014 2:26 PM
cann13 ~ Wow!!! That has got to be the best! There's nothing like hearing that heartbeat! Congratulations!!! I'm sorry you're sick all the time. I've been reading that Mayo Clinic book on expecting and if you can stand spinach, it's a great source of almost anything a pregnant girl needs...folic acid, iron, etc. You can get the protein from nuts and beans if you can't stand meat. I hope you're sickness improves as you progress with your pregnancy! Keep us posted!

4/30/2014 2:23 PM
Pepsgirl07 ~ Yay!!! So exciting! Those are some great numbers! Keep us posted!

I had my first ultrasound today. There are 2 little lentils that we can see, but too early for a fetal heart movement or heartbeat. I will have another ultrasound next week and we hope to know more then! Wow. That's all I can say.

4/29/2014 3:38 PM
@Pepsgirl Congratulations!! It is refreshing to read all the great news! @Wannabemommy good luck on May 20th..You all are always in my mind and prayers.

4/29/2014 3:09 PM
Woohoo!!! I'm so happy for you and your husband. I love your energy and appreciate the uplifting words! I could just imagine the emotions when you first heard the heartbeat. Yay for strong baby! Just reading what your posted made me choke up. I can't wait for that day! I still have to wait a little longer but the time will come. That's awesome that you can deliver least you won't be in pain post-delivery and for Christmas
I have a date for my surgery, May 20. I will be having a hysteroscopy. My Ob/Gyn was definitely not willing to do a full blown surgical procedure if the fibroids and polyps are small. She said there is always a risk of scar tissue in the uterus which could complicate things when doing IVF again. She and my RE spoke and he is ok with this procedure but wants to ensure all is clear in there to begin. I have to share husband and I went to the dentist on Friday and I mentioned to the dental assistant I was going through IVF and she said her coworker also did. She introduced us to her and I asked her who her specialist was. She went to the same specialist we are now going with. Lol...her friend recommended him and both of them got pregnant on the first try. I am so excited. These are now 3 people that I know of that got pregnant with this specialist. I have hope that we will also!
Thanks for the prayers and keep them coming.

4/29/2014 2:23 PM
Hello Ladies! I am so happy reading so many great updates lately!

pepsgirl07 CONGRATS!!!!!! That is amazing! Your numbers will be sky high you'll see! Enjoy every single minute of it. Even the nausea!! LOL. I am nauseous every day ALLLL day. No vomiting thank God. But all worth it at the end.

KanaJoy when is your first ultrasound? Its the best thing to finally see your little jelly bean. Keep us posted.

wannabeamommy, hi! How is everything going? I hope all good. As for me I went to the specialist on Thursday and everything seems to be going good. The clot is getting smaller, and we saw the heart beat. It was 104 BPM so fast. seemed like the baby was all heart was great! I was cleared to go to work Monday but needed to see my RE in the morning first. Well, it was a PLEASANT surprise. We were not expecting it and all of a sudden when he's scanning me, we HEARD the heartbeat!!! I was in shock. It was amazing. He surprised us and we loved it. Sounds like a train it was so fast. It went up to 158 BPM. The clot went down even more and eventually will go away completely. I spot maybe once a day brown from the old blood,but thats fine. I am actually 8 weeks and 1 day today due December 8. I keep getting different due dates but this is finally final. as far cravings I dont have any other than fruits. It feels like a chore now to eat because nothing is appealing to me. I totally cut out meat. I cant stand the smell, look or taste of it. LOL. Never would've thought. Hoping after 12 weeks it eases up. I know its all worth it!!
Oh one more thing. So I always thought I would get a c-section because I already have the cut from my previous procedures. Well, When I asked the Dr he said NOPE. I can do vaginal delivery because my uterus was not cut. I am freaking out just because I was not prepared and I am not good with pain. I'm scared. LOL. I know I will be ok thousands of women do it everyday. Its going to be an adventure for sure.
Hope all you ladies have a great day. And to those starting or in the middle of the cycle I still pray for everyone. Good luck and lots of baby dust. XOXO

4/29/2014 12:44 PM
Congratulations, pepsgirl07! I'm glad that your treatment was a success!

Cann13...been thinking about you. How was your visit on the 24th? Any updates? Hope all is well.

4/29/2014 12:30 PM
Good morning ladies. Just wanted to provide an update. Yesterday we finished our 2 week wait and the Beta blood test was performed. We got the call yesterday afternoon that my Beta # was 300 and that we are pregnant I can not tell you how much relief I feel. We still have a long road ahead of us but we are very happy and excited to start the next 9 months. Tomorrow I take another blood test to ensure the #'s are increasing.

4/18/2014 8:12 AM
Thanks again KonaJoy for clarifying that thawing does not change the grade. yesterday DH and I talked about this to the lat miniute in bed when we fell asleep it was what we were talking about. Thank you also for clarifying that the lab could be different from the fert clinic. I think I will call the Lab or the embryologist and she can give me more details. As of now the AA is a definate go in and maybe a BB. Will see with time what changes is anything. Also we will talk to the doctor to cleary state that we want the AA and one BB to go. Because the doctor said that if we do not specify if we say we want two the lab migh transfer the ones frozen together. And Yes my DH reminded me yesterday that the doctor had mentioned that due to resourses they froze some together. I think in my 2 ww I will be is now that is is nerve wrecking for me. You are very knowledgable in this issues..glad that you are kind enough to share!
Happy Easter!

4/18/2014 7:20 AM
2014mom ~ Believe it or not, the 2ww is flying right by! In fact it's just about over! With Holy Week here and the preparation for that (I'm a vocalist too), it's been busy!

Just to clarify, the thaw does NOT change the grade of your embryo. It's just that there are a few that don't make it through the delicate process of thawing. That's why it can be helpful to talk to the embryologist at the cryo bank. Also, many cryo labs are a completely separate entity from your fertility clinic, so you would not necessarily find that data on-line. This is where talking to the embryologist at your cryo lab can be very helpful and ease your concerns. If you don't have their number, call the clinic, they will have it. Statistically, there is no difference in success (at this point) with success of fresh vs. frozen embryo transfers. Once that embryo makes it through the thaw you have just as high a chance at success as there is with the fresh transfers...I think eventually as they do more FETs, we will see higher success here because it's a much more natural environment for those embryos. Unfortunately, as you know, not all embryos make it to 5 day blastocytes, so what's available and best for one, isn't for another. This is amazing science, and it sounds like you have quite a few frozen babies! I hope you find joy and peace in that! I'm so glad you sound more at ease with the whole process! It's a lot to take in.

I'll keep everyone posted as the my results! Thanks for your support all!

4/17/2014 7:44 PM
@Khayes and KonaJoy, thank-you sooo much for your input. No I am less confused now. I understand what you are saying. I also wish that they froze them all separately. And I had did not know that the thawing may also not be successful or may led to a lower grade embryo. I am so far leaning towards the AA and another BB then leave it to God. The doc made it sound like once we decide how many we want ( either one or two) then the lab chooses whichever is best..and most likely they will choose the ones frozen together. But if we end up deciding on two, we will request the AA and the other BB (frozen alone)…..I will check their website on thaw success rates and gather more information. I feel like if we definitely have to transfer the AA…but like you said what if thawing becomes an issue…oooooh boy….I am mentally exhausted! So I will suggest to DH what you just said…thaw AA and one BB and if both are ok after thawing then two it is….lets see how that goes….I have thought of anything else but this…

How is your 2ww coming along?

4/17/2014 7:14 PM
2014mom.....I completely agree with Kanajoy. I would thaw the AA & maybe one BB if you are nervous about the thaw. AA is your best shot statistically speaking so why waste another procedure & emotional disappointment for not giving it your best shot the first time around? The more research I read, a double transfer doesn't really increase pregnancy rates much...just the risk of multiples. This being all said, we all know sometimes what should happen doesn't, & maybe your future baby is in one of the BB's. However you won't kick yourself later though if you knew you gave it your best shot first. Good luck sweetie xoxo

4/17/2014 4:52 PM
2014Mom ~ Hello! I know, this is a big decision, and I went through it very carefully. Ultimately, it is of course the patient's choice in all matters of medical care, is it not. Clinicians are there to put all the options out there, and then leave it to you, the patient, to make the ultimate decision. Take a deep breath, don't let yourself get too overwhelmed. I made my decision based on literature, and what I could ethically live with. Start with some research. After all, you have the time.
One of the first thing I did was peruse the SART website for what their general recommendations are to practitioners. I also looked at the published success rates of my own fertility center, so I had an idea of where my own success stood. It was really helpful for me to do this. Next, I talked to the embryologist at the lab. I was able to ascertain their thaw success rates and get their thoughts on my embryos and what they thought would be most successful. I also talked to my nurses to bounce my thoughts off of them. I prayed.

Here's the thing, there are many variables to success. The age of the female, the grade of the embryo, success in thaw, and the success rates of the physician doing the procedure (technique). Take all that into account, and what you can ethically, morally live with...and you'll have your answer.

I did transfer 2 embryos, but I did not have an AA embryo. My best was an AB (which is still pretty great). My center freezes them all separately, which I feel is best practice, however probably more expensive (not as cost effective), and we all know how expensive this process is...
The success thaw rate at my center is just above 90%. You should know, the average success thaw rate is 75%. I am 38, and have a cardiac history, completely cured...but none the less, something to consider with multiples. I did not want to only thaw one, and then not have the embryo survive the thaw and delay the procedure. However, I also knew, if both survived the thaw...I could not choose only one to transfer. That was ethically problematic for me. When I talked to the embryologist, he was very reassuring. He said he would call me if there was ANY problems with the thaw, that there would be time to thaw another if need be.

That's a lot of information, but in the end, you do what's right for you. Do you think is safest for you and the pregnancy. If I personally had an AA embryo, I would only transfer 1. If the embryologist wants to thaw more than 1, I would thaw the AA and an BB. This way, you're increasing your chances for success (yes multiples too, but they both have to survive the thaw). If the embryologist is confident in calling if there is trouble thawing AA alone and calling if there's any difficulty so they can thaw a pair is BB's, I'd be very confident with that plan!

Does this help or cause more confusion?

4/17/2014 3:11 PM
@wannabemommy, thank so much for encouragement. Yea the doctor had once before mentioned that according to the quality on embryos they are only allowed to transfer a certain number (3 I think) An transfering more can lead to a doctor losing the licences. We mentioned Octo-mom to him and he said that doctor who did the transfer probably lost the licences. Is it me or is time moving to slow..April has been moving too slow for me it is not even funny!

4/17/2014 1:39 PM
2014mom, I thought the doctor was giving you the option. I think then it is standard that the max is two. I don't blame you for being distraught over which ones to transfer. I would probably go with the two B's, again just knowing that there are two that could stick. There never seems to be a time to relax during this journey! There is always something to keep us on our toes. Go with what your heart says and hope and pray for the best. Whateve decision you make, you know it was the right one for you at the time! Don't think about the "what if's" as that will drive you nuts.
Good luck to you and your husband.

4/17/2014 1:29 PM
@wanabemommy, thanks for your thoughts. The doctor left it on us but he said he maximum he can put is two. So DH and I are to pick between one and two. He said he would not dare think of putting more than two and he said that is not even an option on the table. So it is either one or two. His goal if for me to get a singleton. He is so much against twins because he says any multiple pregnancy is considered high risk, even for two babies. He acknowledges that there are many babies out there who are twins and and healthy but he just wants us to know that there is a risk. I am also leaning towards to grade B embryos..I just wish they never froze 2 together..coz all the frozen together ones are Bs. Then there is one A and two othere separate Bs...I want that A to go in and another B, then that will mean that we have just one more time to put a single embryo back. Coz the other 6 frozen together must all be put agonizing.

Pespsgirl07 Nice to hear that yout ET went well...Wow I did not know they could give you a picture of the embryo. How nice! Enjoy you bedrest and now the count down begins!

4/17/2014 11:25 AM
2014Mom, I totally understand your agony. I wanted to have 3-4 embryos transferred but my doctor wasn't too keen on that. She said that I didn't want to get "over-pregnant" and have a high risk pregnancy and problems with the baby(ies). It makes sense, I suppose but we want to have the highest chances in getting pregnant. My advice to you would be to do two at a time. I find it really strange that the doctor would leave that up to you to decide. Both doctors I have seen have opted for only transferring two embryos. There are too many risks to have a multiple pregnancy. Remember octomom? She had a couple of those children with developmental disabilities.
I always pose this question to the doctors, when in a stiff situation, "what would you do if it were you in my shoes?"

pepsgirl, I also remember shedding tears during the transfers. I still have the videos of them and the print out of the picture of my second one. My husband threw away the first one because he was so upset that we didn't get pregnant and that I would break down after seeing the picture. I remember being so mad at him for doing so but I understand why he did it. It truly is an amazing thing the doctors do. It's beautiful to see life being created. All the best to you on the 28th.

cann13, how are you? Any spotting or cramping? Stay off your feet as much as possible! Praying for you and for all of us!

XOXOXO to you all!

4/17/2014 10:50 AM
Hello ladies. Great news to report. Yesterday we completed and smooth and pretty embryo transfer according to the doctor. Going into yesterday we had 3 embryos growing and yesterday we were down to 2 very beautiful blastocytes. We decided to put them both in and my 2 week wait began yesterday. We are scheduled to take the pregnancy test on April 28th, that is one of my nieces birthday so I think that is a great date for a BFP.

The picture they gave us of the 2 blastocytes they put back brought me to tears during the transfer and watching the ultrasound when the released them into the uterus was so emotional. I can't tell you how that makes this whole journey worth while. I will keep you all posted.

You guys will have to keep me calm during this waiting period so I don't drive myself crazy.

4/17/2014 10:46 AM
Forgot to mention, DH and I have been asked to decide how many embryos we want transferred. He said we have 8 BB grade and 1 AA grade. 3 of these have been frozen individually and the other 6 have been frozen in pairs. The doctors suggested we transfer the one AA, however he said it is really up to us. At first we had already said we wanted 2 transferred from the beginning but now we are faced with a decision. Praying to make the right decision. I do not want to transfer one then kick myself later and I do not want to transfer 2 then not go full term (40 weeks) which the doctor said is likely for multiple pregnancy. He also said with multiples there is a risk of CP...Pray for us so we make a God guided decision. @Konagirl, as a nurse what is your best advice on this? Any advice is welcomed. @Wannabemommy how many will you transfer? Since yesterday I have not thought of anything but matter how I try..I could not even sleep well, just thinking how any we should transfer.One or two..and the doctor said if we transfer two chances are they will transfer the ones that were frozen together...and they were all BB . The one AA and two other Bs are frozen me ladies

4/17/2014 8:01 AM
Hello ladies. @Cann13, what a scare! I hope and pray everything is ok. Just enjoy the bed rest. Watch movies, read magazines blog write on your pregancy journal..just keep busy and the days will go so fast. Will be thinking of you and praying for you. @wannabemommy hopefully you get a date soon enough. I was reading Essence magazine yesterday, there is a story in the May issue about a lady who went through Myomectomy three times! She then got pregnant through IVF and now has a daughter. Such an inspiring story.
On my end we met with the dorctors yesterday, first of all I was sort of disappointed that Ihad to cough another 2300 dollars! W ehad paid for a complete cycle but sine my cycle was interuppted coz of hormones now we have to pay for if my hormones were ok, then we would not have paid anything. Apparenetly FET is another fee all together. I wanted to scream. I start my Lupron on 19th (this Saturday) and as of now, the tentative date for my FET is 12th May.....sigh...feels like it will take a year for May 12th to get here. Wish I could move time!
All the best ladies with where you are with your journey. Always praying for the ladies in this forum. XoXo.

4/16/2014 1:39 PM
cann13, I am so sorry to hear of the anguish you are going through. I literally was brought to tears reading your blog. I told my husband what is going on and he was also upset about it. Let's not lose hope and maintain some sort of peace that everything will be ok. My heart goes out to are a very strong woman and always seem to maintain your composure. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I send you a big hug!

As for me...I spoke with my specialist and he is ok with me going through a hysteroscopy, so long as we know for sure my uterine cavity is clear from any fibroid. I'm now just waiting to hear back from my Ob/Gyn with a date for my surgery.

4/16/2014 12:37 PM
Pepsgirl ~ thinking of you and hoping you are full of hope today! I hope all went well!

4/16/2014 12:36 PM
cann13 ~ Know that we are waiting and praying with you. For me, I'm taking this as the valley we walk through in Lent as we await life and hope that Easter brings. (((Hugs)))

4/16/2014 11:32 AM
pepsgirl07 i hope everything went well today!! I said a prayer for you. Now rest and get pampered. Give your little embryos a nice little home to feel comfy in. Please keep us posted.

4/16/2014 11:30 AM
Khayes thank you. I am certainly trying. For now all I can do is sit and wait and pray. It's not easy. You want to celebrate and let go, but its always something. 8 more days.

4/14/2014 10:01 PM
Hi Cann13,

Keep being strong & staying positive for you & your baby! I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. My sister gushed blood early on in her pregnancy. It was found that a blood vessel burst. However everything turned out fine & she has a beautiful 18 month little girl. Continue to talk to your baby & put to rest any fears. I will keep you all in my prayers. Big hugs. Xo

4/14/2014 7:45 PM
Hi ladies.I see you all have been busy this weekend.
pepsgirl07 congrats!1 That is great news and its way better than nothing at all. All you need is that one. I cant wait for Wednesday. Its a piece of cake and a great feeling!

wannabeamommy Hi. Thank you for the birthday wishes. Although you are frustrated its tiny baby steps right now you are taking. Little by little. I will keep you in my prayers as always.

As for me, well my birthday wasn't as I expected. Friday Night I was having just a little cramping didnt think much about it but did notice it. Saturday my friends and I went to the beach as planned, and in the afternoon my cramps came back. This time I really felt them. I had to sit down and they would not go away I wasnt feeling good at all. I went to the bathroom and saw just a slight brown spotting. 2 hours later it was more noticeable and I called my Dr. He put me on bed rest yesterday(my birthday) and told me if I still have cramps today that I could not go to work. I still had a great birthday because all my friends just kinda hung with me, They were on bed rest too. We laughed alot and cut a cake.
So this morning I woke up not really feeling well. I just had this bad feeling. I cramped slightly and it went away so I went to work. As soon as I sat at my desk I felt very wet. I went to the restroom and sure enough I was bleeding.This time it wasnt just a spot. It looked like AF. I called my Dr right away and he told me to go in now. As he was doing the U/S I can tell on his face he wasnt pleased with what he saw. Honestly neither was I. I couldn't see a fetus. I just saw a sack. I thought by now I would be able to. He said that he didnt see a fetus growth and my yolk sack also looked enlarged. I also have blood in the sack. He was honest as he always has been and gave us worse case scenario. We would have to do a DNC tomorrow if its causing my body harm. My whole world collapsed right then.
He sent us to a specialist that can actually take a better closer look with advanced U/S. He said depending on what that Dr says we would either continue with the pregnancy or he will see me tomorrow. The Dr saw us right away. As soon as he scanned he did see the blood and said that it can dissolve on its own but it can be a danger to miscarriage. So basically a 50/50 chance. He did not see a reason to move on a DNC it was too early. He finally moved a little and I saw it!! It was my tiny little nugget of a baby!! He could not see a heartbeat but he said it was too early anyway and I was measuring fine . I'm actually 6 weeks today! I was surprised. I didnt know I was that far along. I also found out my due date is December 8,2014! So for now it's touch and go. I have to keep an eye on the blood which has stopped and I go in on the 24th to see heartbeat, measurements and hope the blood dissolved . That means bed rest for me until then. 10 days Bed rest.
Its crazy how we continue on this roller coaster even after we finally conceive. Someone told me Saturday. From now on as a parent you will never have a peaceful night of sleep, because you will forever worry for your child. This has proven to be so right.
I hope you all have a good night and please keep us in your prayers. Hoping for the best.

4/14/2014 4:57 PM
pepsgirl07, congratulations! This is such an exciting time for you. Just keep thinking of cann13...she's our look-up-girl! Wednesday you will get to see the little embryo get situated in your tummy. We have video footage of the two times we did it. It's really a beautful moment! Take it all in and enjoy it!

cann13, I was thinking of you yesterday. Happy belated birthday! Hope it was beautiful and so very special! I hope you didn't have to much nausea and enjoyed your birthday cake. Big hug to you!
I went in this morning to see my Ob/Gyn and came out feeling as confused as I was before. She now has me worried about scar tissue that can form in my uterus after a myomectomy and cause problems for me down the line. She is not opposed to removing what she sees but would do so vaginally. I have a call in to my fertility specialist to consult with him about this situation. God willing he steers me in the right direction. I just want to get the ball rolling and proceed with another cycle and hopefully, celebrate as you have been!

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