InstantForum.NET v4.1.4Fertility By Design Forumshttp://forums.fertilitybydesign.com/forums@healthbanks.comFri, 03 Sep 2010 21:30:56 GMT20http://forums.fertilitybydesign.com/Topic2661-6-1.aspxHello everyone!New to this board, found it after my first fertility pharmacy sent me a generic email. I think the concept of using donor eggs is a process you have go through. There was no way I was using donor eggs, the idea was to have a child who was part me and part my husband and he felt the same way. But since I have three children by two separate marriages and he didn't yet have any, I accepted the idea of donor eggs. I have also read somewhere that the child is your biological child, just not your genetic child. I also feel that that child would have never in a million years existed if it were not your desire to have it. I have to admit, I still sometimes wonder if I ever will feel, hey this is not my child, but I have not yet gone through this situation.....yet! I'm currently in the middle of a donor egg cycle. We tried one IVF cycle of our own and produced 2 eggs on the highest dosage of stims. I tured 43 last November and had a tubal ligation after my third child. We were going to try one more time with our own eggs, but my insurance does not cover the drugs or anything that is not "diagnostic", which we had already gone through and used up. I've been on Lupron since the 31st and Estrace since yesterday. My donor just started Lupron this week and will take her last bcp this Sunday, wait for AF, then start stim meds and it will be approximately 8-10 days from there for retrieveal. I'm extremely nervous, this will be her first donation and my RE said she seemed very responsible and like a good donor. I guess since I didn't respond to the meds, I feel like something is going to go wrong again. Everything seems to be about timing. Thanks for listening!!Fri, 16 Apr 2010 15:42:14 GMToldmomhttp://forums.fertilitybydesign.com/Topic2288-6-1.aspxMy RE wants me to do this before we're allowed to move forward with looking at their donor database, etc. Did those of you who used donor eggs do this too? What should I expect?Sun, 14 Feb 2010 16:52:04 GMTsal22http://forums.fertilitybydesign.com/Topic8-6-1.aspxI was very fortunate to have a great donor experience. The clinic where we go was very warm and open.Mon, 05 Jan 2009 21:12:26 GMTBurlhbhttp://forums.fertilitybydesign.com/Topic1406-6-1.aspxI happen to be jewish and live near San Francisco. Although I am not religious I thought it might help me to have a further connection to my prospective new baby to have a biologically jewish egg donor. Sifting through the agencies has been a nightmare and it is really hard to try to find quality candidates and know which agencies are really reputable. It is very disheartening. I feel like the better agencies for jewish egg donors would have to be on the East Coast perhaps NYC. Has anyone heard of a friend or acquaintance having any luck working with a quality organization in finding a jewish egg donor. Thank you for your thoughts!!Thu, 24 Sep 2009 20:42:56 GMTNinahttp://forums.fertilitybydesign.com/Topic993-6-1.aspxHas anyone used a sperm donor? We're dealing with MFIF, have failed with 2 fresh/1 frozen IVF cycles and it looks like our next step might be to consider donor sperm. Our RE actually mentioned it before we attempted IVF but I really wanted to try it ourselves first. Seeing as we pay completely out of pocket and I'm not currently working, we really can't justify the cost of another round of IVF.I'm still on the fence about using a donor and haven't discussed it with DH recently. I really think he'd be fine with it, I just need the courage to bring it up again.I'd love to hear from anyone who has gone this route and is willing to share their experience. I guess my biggest fear is not having a complete medical history for my child. I have two siblings who are adopted and they haven't run into any issues with not having familial history, but I'm just so worried about it.Sat, 01 Aug 2009 11:32:10 GMTCallMeCarolhttp://forums.fertilitybydesign.com/Topic235-6-1.aspxOK...here is my dilema. I said that I wanted my own child. My canned statement towards donor eggs is, "I already have two donor children with my husbands sperm and another womans egg....they are called step-kids".I want my OWN child. And while that may sound arrogant or vain....it is important to me. My husband says he thinks we should consider donor eggs as mine are old ( I am 44). He really does not understand how much that irks me.....as he already has two children, and this baby would still be his too. But I really need for it to feel like mine. Everyone says that you WILL feel the attachment as you will carry it.....but I don't think that is enough for me.SO my question is this. Has anyone heard where harvested eggs and donor eggs were used at the same time during one fertilization? Mix them up in one dish, and then harvet. If a baby was achieved, then I think that I would be ok because I would never really know eith way, so it would be easy to embrace it as mine.Is this too weird....too sci-fi.....?Thu, 26 Mar 2009 16:43:45 GMTCidhttp://forums.fertilitybydesign.com/Topic89-6-1.aspxHubby and I have received a very generous offer from family members on hubby's side and I am looking for thoughts, opinions and things to consider. They are offering to donate leftover frozen embryos to us for transfer. Embryos were created from anonymous egg donor and hubby's brother's sperm. Embryos resulted in twin pregnancy for them 4 years ago which means our children would be biologically brother/sister to their children. As you can imagine, this option opens an entirely new can of worms that requires considerable thought and balance.I welcome any thoughts as we have exhausted all other attempts at getting pregnant. Our issue is with hubby's sperm (which can be used for IVF with ICSI only) and attempts at IVF have failed due to poor response to medications. I am 38, he is 34.Tue, 17 Feb 2009 14:31:25 GMTlms